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"From the beginning, fostering with Action for Children felt like a family"

Monday 19 October 2020
Foster carers Annette and Lloyd smiling

Annette and Lloyd have been fostering for thirteen years. They've looked after over 25 children and are still in touch with a lot of them. Here, they tell us what they love about fostering

Lloyd said: “We have been fostering for 30 years in total, 13 with Action for Children. We are prepared for most situations. We came into fostering solely to give children of all backgrounds a better start to life. We just see a child that needs a home.

“Our four children grew up with us fostering. One of our daughters is now a foster carer herself and our son works with young people, so our whole family are really passionate about giving children and young people that extra support.

We just see a child that needs a home

“From the beginning, fostering with Action for Children felt like a family and that we were part of something special, which we didn’t get from other bigger organisations. It felt like a group of friends, everybody knew everybody.”

Annette adds that “Action for Children aren’t big and corporate it has that local team feeling which is what I like.”

Annette and Lloyd are still in touch with a lot of the children they have fostered. They hope that one day soon, they can all get together for a big family dinner.

Girl with long hair standing outside in the garden

One memory sticks out for Lloyd: “One of our first placements with Action for Children was two sisters, one of them said she wanted to go into the Army Medics and we thought ‘brilliant’. We used to get letters upon letters until this girl was 16 and they just stopped. We were wondering what had happened. Then one day our daughter got a message on Facebook from her to get in contact with us again.

“She lived with us when she was eight for 15 months, and she’s now 21. She’s now contacted us and said that, out of all the foster families she had, we were the only foster carers she has tried to contact. She said we were the only ones that understood her. She’s doing what she always wanted to do and is an Army medic. She is hoping to come visit soon with her son.”

The best bit about fostering for me is when you can see the gradual change in the young person that comes through your door

Annette says: “The best bit about fostering for me is when you can see the gradual change in the young person that comes through your door. I compare it to a flower that’s wilting. They come in with so many things pulling them down and you water that flower and you see that young person blossoming. When you see that change happening you know you’ve done something really good.”

For Lloyd, a personal highlight has been “when a young person came to us with no English. He did so well while he was with us that he was entered for the Young Achiever Awards through the local authority. We knew he had been nominated for this award, but we decided not to tell him, and we took him to the awards and his name got called out. He was so surprised. It was such a proud moment for us.

Colourfully dressed teenage girl standing against a metal shutter and smiling at the camera

“Another moment that stands out is when I bumped into a young lady we fostered when we first started our journey. I asked her what she is doing now, and she told me she was studying law. I felt so proud because her early childhood wasn’t very pleasant. To hear she is doing so well in life made me feel great and proud to be a foster carer.”

Annette adds: “We always say to our young people that just because they’ve left home and they’ve moved on, the care doesn’t stop. We want to know how they are doing and we know they want us to know how they are doing.”

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