'I feel more confident and ready to live on my own and that's largely down to staff'


Amy has lived at an Action for Children residential home for a few years. Soon, she’ll be turning 18 and feels ready to take that step into independent living. For our new Keeping myself safe staff resource, Amy talks about the support she has received from staff.

Good relationships take time

‘If you’ve been here for a long time and you’ve got a good relationship with workers, they can pick up on when you’re down or when you’re happy. There’s been a few times when I’ve been really quiet and they’ve said ‘is there anything I can help with?

When you have a good relationship with that person you obviously trust them more and having those girlie gossip times really helps. Speaking to them as a person. It’s just obvious that you get along.'

Appropriate boundaries and advice help us make the right decisions

‘We have rules in the house but I know that it does help to keep us safe. I think it probably stops some folk getting into trouble. If you have to be in by a certain time it means you know where you’re supposed to be. Just knowing is quite good.

If you’re ever unsure of a situation and you ask them for advice, quite a lot of them give you an honest opinion of what they think you should do. So again getting an adult’s opinion of what you should do will help me make the right decision. It’s someone to turn to.'

Challenge me appropriately and help me to learn from the mistakes

‘Quite often we’re challenged by staff. But they won’t do it in front of all of the other kids, they’ll ask me one-to-one. They’ll pull us over and say ‘why did you do this? What happened?’ It’s important they take us to one side. If I’ve done something wrong I wouldn’t like everyone to know about it. They don’t do that in front of everyone which is pretty good. They give you an opportunity to come to the side and get spoken to rather than everyone knowing your business. I’m glad about that because it gives me the opportunity to have a one-to-one with them.

Staff should take note of whatever you did wrong but then tell them that there’s a different way of going about things. It is important that we make that mistake, then we can realise it’s a mistake too.'

Being ready to be independent

‘I could have left here when I was 16 but I like staying where I’m at. But I’ve decided now that I’m ready for my own place.

I’ve learnt lessons in this place that will really help when I live on my own. They’ve helped me cook. When I first moved in when I was 14 I really couldn’t cook whatsoever. Now I can, and cleaning, my own washing.

I’ve definitely learnt how to make better decisions. I feel more confident and ready to live on my own and that is largely down to staff, they did really well. I’ll still visit here when I live on my own.’

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